Be Confident In Your Modesty by Emily

Thursday, December 01, 2011
Hi! This is Emily from The Lovely Things. I am fairly new to the blogging scene. My blog is all about my life and my evolving style.

Something I’ve been thinking about lately is confidence. It seems like every girl has days when she thinks, “Ugh, I wish I could wear what other girls get to wear.” or “Nothing looks cute when you are modest.” Even though we have these thoughts, we know they could not be more untrue. It is all about confidence in your modesty. Confidence is an essential component to being able to rock an outfit. Confidence is not about how the outfit would look on someone else, where you purchased the items, or what people think about you. Confidence is about how you feel, and when you are confident, it shows. You do not need to start practicing your model strut in order to pull off your outfits. Clothes are about expressing your creative side and letting your personality shine.

Here are some tips to becoming more confident in your style:

Pick staple items that you are in love with.

If you do not have that “I will die if I don’t buy this!” feeling then you will not have a glow about you when you wear it.

Only wear an outfit if you feel good about it. 

When you feel good about your outfit, you find that you end up giving yourself compliments instead of put-downs, which builds up your confidence.

If you feel like your skirt just may be too short, then skip it. No one likes to play the "pulling it down all day" game.

Make things interesting.

Mix colors and patterns and experiment with layering. You will find that making bold steps in your style slowly makes you more confident about your abilities to put together interesting outfits. Who do you notice more? The girl wearing the usual jeans, tee, and cardigan or the girl who is thinking outside the box? You do not need to see her and think, “Oh, I wish I could be like her.” You can exude that confidence just as well as she can.

Forget about what other people think.

Your style is about you. An outfit on a confident person is infinitely more appealing than on someone who is looking for approval.

Remember that modesty can be sexy.


  1. what a great post! i especially love the end how she says modesty can be sexy.

  2. love this! i find that modest clothing makes me more confident because i'm not constantly fidgeting with what i'm wearing! 

  3. Excellent post! And such a beautiful girl!

  4. Wow you have an incredible sense of style! I love the photos and the post :)

  5. New reader here! Great post. The photos are stunning and the advice is something women everywhere can truly apply to their lives (myself included).

  6. I really adore the first chic and classy..I'm such a fan! 

  7. I completely believe that if you are going to wear something that you need to be confident enough to wear it.When I think of confidence I think of something beyond the clothes I wear. I view confidence in my style as just a layer: its shows,its a part of me, and yet its only a glimpse of me. Now I find that If I'm truly confident, I am a better dresser(for the most part!) because I'm reflecting that inner strength. Just some of my thoughts... Thanks for the thought provoking post!

    BTW I also like your style.

  8. So true, modest is hottest. 
    I love your outfit choices and your tips are so great.  off to check out your blog!

  9. Great post and great tips! Confidence is important stuff. I like this girl, she's so stylin. Thanks for sharing! I agree modest definitely can be attractive!

  10. I think these clothes are so beautiful, but I do have a question... If modesty is sexy, isn't that defeating the purpose of intentional modesty fashion? Maybe I've missed the point, but it seems like a bit of a contradiction at first glance! 

  11. this is a great post.
    you are beautiful.
    thanks for sharing!
    {love} lauryn @

  12. you are gorgeous! i love those outfits

  13. YAY for blogs giving us the inspiration to try new things.

    Marie @
    Lemondrop ViNtAge

    I am having a fabulous holiday giveaway right here.