We are family

Saturday, January 08, 2011
{taken in San Diego by Chase}

I thought we should cover the most important part about ourselves today...our family! I have a mom and dad...and they drive me CRAZY. When I was growing up, my parents were set in their Korean ways whereas I grew accustomed to American culture so there was a lot of miscommunication and cultural differences. Things are better now that I married a white guy. Chase doesn't speak Korean (just a few words/phrases here and there) but my mom does...and I guess that's all that matters to her because she just talks to him in Korean anyway. We're working on that. I also have a younger brother and a youngerer sister. My brother is on a Mormon mission in Spain and has been gone for two years but is coming home next month! My sister is going to school in Utah at BYU. None of us look alike...but it's okay because I'm the pretty one. (Just kidding. My sister is pretty too.) When our whole family is together, we're loud, crazy, blunt, and we make fun of each other a lot.

So who is in your family? And what is your family like??

40 comments :

  1. That picture is utterly adorable, and I love that you shared a bit about your family. Hearing about you and Chase is always so interesting, and it's so funny that your mom only talks to Chase in Korean!

    My family is my mom, dad, sister, and dog. We're all a little crazy and we don't always get along but we sure do love each other!

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  2. I'm the 2nd oldest of 7 kids, which means we get a lot of looks. And 6 of us are girls! There is a 20-year span between the oldest and youngest, so while I'm 23, my youngest sister is 5! I love having a huge family; it's so crazy, fun and loud! To be honest tho, it didn't think it was that cool while living at home.

    Although I grew up in Alabama, my family moved to Boston while I was college. It turned out to be such a blessing because my husband and I, years later, moved to New York City, making my family just 3 hours away! I never would have lived this close to them if they lived in Alabama.

    To sum my family, we are loud, love games and movies, joke on each other constantly, and all look alike.

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  3. This is so lovely!

    XOXO,

    colormenana.blogspot.com

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  4. I love this picture. The composition is somber and sentimental.

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  5. My parents are both Vietnamese and came over to Idaho as refugees. My brothers and I were born in America. My parents instilled a lot of Vietnamese values in us, and growing up, we debated about a lot of things like whether we should speak Vietnamese at home or who we should marry. I was a bit more Americanized, but also just frustrated with Idaho, so I had tons of fights with my mom. I moved to California and learned more about my heritage, saw life in a completely different way, and just plain matured. My mom and I have a new healthier relationship dynamic and I'm proud to say I am Vietnamese-American: neither completely Vietnamese or American, but a good balance of the best stuff from both... maybe a bit Japanese, Korean, and Hispanic too :)

    My mom is a really cool because for the most part, she lets me explore the world for myself. She's really funny and pulls pranks on one of my brothers a lot.

    And my brothers? They are both at the University of Utah. I get along with one brother more than the other. We don't look alike besides our chubby faces because my brothers are 6 feet while I'm a lot shorter.

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  6. My family consists of mother, my dad, myself, and my 4 sisters + our dog, Festus. I have 2 older half-brothers but they aren't apart of my life because they don't want to be. I also have 2 nephews but they don't know who I am. Anywho, we're extremely loud, crazy, smart mouthed, and very blunt as well. My older sister, Hope, she is my best friend and even though we're complete opposites in most things we think a lot alike. Like, we'll be sitting somewhere one playing the xbox360 the other on the computer and I'll say something and she'll be like I WAS JUST THINKING THAT and vice versa. lol! =)

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  7. My family is just my mom, dad, older brother and me. We, along with my aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents, have always been tight. We all tease each other constantly (My grandfather started it...) and since there are only 6 of us grandkids total, we're like siblings rather than cousins. Some people have so many cousins they can't even name them all! I'm glad I only have 4 haha.
    My brother and I got along great until I was about 6, and then he started getting into his teenage years, and I became a tag-along. Things are getting better now though since he's 27 and I'm 24. :) My mom is my bff and my papa is beyond hilarious. <3

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  8. I work with a lot of Korean kids and I know that the cultural differences between traditional parents and Westernized kids can be really stressful. I'm glad that your family is finding a balance.

    I'm the oldest of three but I live far away from my brother and sister, who live far away from my parents. Luckily my hubs' family lives in the same town as us so I still get the benefits of local family too.

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  9. My family is awesome. I am the oldest of two. My younger brother is 17 and much much taller than me. We are both redheads and I love it. My parents are awesome engineers that met at BYU and that is where I am now! :)

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  10. I want to see what your sister and brother look like!! :)

    I'm the younger of two girls, born in the US to Chinese immigrants. :)

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  11. Ditto to how you were growing up, family with hardcore Laotian/Thai values and standards and us crazy kids trying to live the American ways. I also married a white guy and like your mom, my ma speaks to him in her native tongue, too, and he just goes along with her jibberish. Kinda different now that we have kids of our own: our kids are halfies. What should be the primary language? Are we going to incorporate my Asian ways in the home? But however it is, it's a journey nonetheless.

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  12. This is a good idea! I like knowing all this about you...(creepy stalker laugh here) juuuust kidding. :)
    I bet you are so excited for your brother to come home!
    It's me, my husband Jeremy, our daughters Eva (pronounced: Ay-vuh) who just turned 7 (yikes, I'm getting old) and Elle (pron: "L" but we call her Ellie too) who is 3 and will be 4 in May and I am of course gestating a small infant, I'm 27 weeks along right now, my due date is April 8th, but I can totally see this kid coming on April fools day. that's how we roll in this family. We don't know if it's a boy or girl, we didn't find out with any of our kids, it's really, really fun that way and it makes labor SO much more worth it when you're already ready to be done. PLUS, everyone cares when you have your baby, because they really want to know if it's a boy or girl and what name you decided on. It makes me the start the whole 9 months which is what I like. :)
    We're just starting to do more "family" things now that our family is getting older. Eva just started reading scriptures on her own with a BoM that I took from church...those are free right? Jeremy runs with Eva and now Elle wants to go running with him. We like to play games together and we are huge fans of Wipeout and watching movies together. Families really are the best and make being on earth an adventure!

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  13. i can totally relate to this post! i grew up in a chinese family and never quite adhered to the traditional chinese customs as i grew up in america. but my parents are actually slowly coming around now that i'm older. it's good to see that Chase is learning a little bit of korean. my bf has a few chinese words under his belt too. :)

    oh, and i just added you to my blogroll!

    cuteandlittle.com

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  14. My dad is white Puerto Rican, my mom is Korean. I have 2 younger sisters and a brother. 3 of us look like my mom and one of my sisters looks like my mom. I only know some Korean words. But whe're definitely making sure that my son learns Korean. My husband is white and sorta' quiet. My mom is very loud-as are the rest of her Korean friends. Puerto Ricans are also naturally loud so you can imagine how our family get togethers can be between the people speaking English, Spanish and Korean. but, I couldn't ask for a better family!

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  15. My family is small - just me, my mom, and my dad - so I have a huge number of "adopted relatives" that my parents turned into my aunts, uncles, and cousins. I love that my parents picked out people that they already loved to become my extended family, and now I'm carrying on the tradition. I'm "Aunt Katie" to many of my dearest friends' children, and I'll love those kids forever, even if we're not biologically related.

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  16. My immediate family is me, my sister - who's three years younger - my mom, and my dad. We came from Puerto Rico to the States when I was four, so there's definitely been quite a bit of generational/cultural conflict, though I'd say that I'm much more connected to my Puerto Rican roots now than I was as a child. And I also married a white man - the first and only white man I've ever had a relationship with - so we're figuring out how to create our own cultural understanding. He does speak Spanish, though, and that's important to me.
    Also, I'm ridiculously close to my aunts and grandparents back in Puerto Rico, even though I live so far from them. I am rich in "pretend family" though, since I grew up as an Army brat, traveling all over the world.

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  17. My family is crazy. I have my mother, father, and step-mother. I used to have a step-father, but that's a whole other story. I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, I consider him my family, and his family mine as well. Let' just say the holidays can get crazy. We are all blunt, sarcastic, and have a good time. I love my big mixed up family.
    My Heart Blogged

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  18. That's great that your mom speaks to Chase in Korean - such a great mental image. I've got my mom, dad, and a younger brother and sister. My sister just started college this year, and my brother is a high school senior. It's making me feel really old, and I'm wondering where the time went! My dad's the quietest of all of us, but he has his moments. All around, I love them and they're so much fun to be with!

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  19. I love that blurry family photo! I have my mom and dad, and an older brother (when I admit his existence ;). We're pretty close knit and traditional (read:boring) I always wanted a sister, but I have a few close girlfriends that fit that bill. My parents are German and PA Dutch (mom) and Comanche (Dad). I'm envious of my friends that celebrate their heritage and culture with traditions. I like this Saturday get to know you posts :)

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  20. Love the picture! My family consists of Mum & Dad, my older brother whose 23, me and my younger sister who is still 10. We're still at school but me and my brother will be graduating this year :) x

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  21. I have a mom, dad, 2 brothers and a sister. At the moment we are all still at home until my brother goes back to college. My sister is 2 years older than me and both my brothers are younger...
    Not much else to say....haha....we're boring people ;)
    http://aclosetfashionista.blogspot.com/

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  22. My family sounds like the filipino version of your family. Minus one sibling. I have a mom, dad and older brother. Everyone in my family was born in the Philippines except for me - I was born in Canada. Both mom and dad live in Manila Philippines where they grew up. They moved back after I went away to college. And to this day, even after living in Canada and US for over 20 years they still pronounce their Fs as Ps (ie: Pridge instead of Fridge).

    My brother lives in Vancouver, BC where I was born with his wife and 2 kids. I too married a white guy and it's so nice to be married into a family that doesn't overreact, isn't really loud and doesn't like any sort of drama.

    I don't see my family too often, but when I do it's chaos. Everything revolves around food, food and more food. And the only topic of conversation that really seems to matter is gossip about how our extended family is crazy.

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  23. What a great question to ask! My family is the best I could have asked for. I have fairly young parents who are amazing (And look really young for their age! I hope I got that gene!). My mom is really, really good at interior design and crafting, and my dad is really musical. I also have two brothers: an older brother who is mentally disabled and really good at video games, and a younger brother is who diabetic, good at baseball, and a really good artist. My family also has two adorable dogs.

    Lindsey Soup

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  24. Oh! And we all get along eerily well. When I found out everyone else's family didn't get along the way mine did it shocked me. Lol!

    Lindsey Soup

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  25. My familys pretty crazy too, Im the oldest, I have two brothers, 12 and 4. ITs a little stressful they keep fighting =P I have a good relationship with my parents though, we talk, they understand me, I understand them, except my dad doesn't understand blogging, neither does my 12 yr old brother.. Oh well.. =P
    I have to say I love that your mom speaks to Chase in Korean =D Thats pretty funny...
    Bellesme

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  26. Elaine--but do you speak Korean with your parents? If you had married a Korean, would that have upset them? I have read that been a first generation American can be very trying.

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  27. aww, I love learning about you. In a non stalker way. lol. In terms of the family I live with- there's my dad. and my older sister. I have another sister but we don't talk much. and she's older. and we don't get along. lol. And past that... ways too many people- my family is complicated. and huge. I'm not sure why I know of my 4th cousins. x_x.

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  28. I grew up with my mom, dad, and brother. I am the cooler, I mean, older one. My bro is only 4 years younger than me but, he'll always be my little brother and I love him bunches. We are first generation born here, my parent's were born in Puerto Rico. I love my parent's also. I, or both have calmed down alot more. We had a very tumultuous relationship when I was high school but, things are better now.

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  29. my parents are super, super conservative and sometimes try and force their beliefs on my husband and I which drives me nuts sometimes. My mom and I went through a really rough period when I was engaged/planning our wedding, but we have recovered and now that I have a child of my own, we have grown closer and I can see now why she made the decisions she did when I was younger and didn't understand.

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  30. Thank you for sharing this! It's always interesting to know a little bit about people's background! :-)

    My father came from Italy to Germany with his parents when he was a child. My mother's parents are from Germany and Poland. While my maternal grandmother still speaks of Poland as her home sometimes, my father doesn't seem to be happy with his family's history as immigrants. He didn't even teach me Italian - I should grow up as a German child speaking only German. I understand him somehow, because after decades of living here he's still considered a foreigner by some, just because of his name and appearance. I regret it nonetheless. Italian is such a beautiful language, and now, as an adult, it will be impossible to learn it the way that I would have as a child.

    Apart from that immigration stuff, we're a pretty harmonious family. I'm living in a different town, some hours by train from them, but we see each other regularly.
    If you see my mother and me you'd never ever guess by appearance that we are relatives. She's such a petite and graceful woman - but the more of a shock it can be for people to discover that she's got a real dark sense of humour. (Which I love - and at least I might have inherited some of that, even though the language barrier protects my non-German environment of it most of the time *g*)

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  31. I have a mom, dad and brother.
    My parents, when I was growing up, were really strict. No boys, no sleepovers, must get good grades. Typical Asian parents. Though after my parents divorce things changed. They're less strict and act Americanized. My brother is sadly being affected because I see it as neglect ... they taught me good study habits while my brother is failing school. He is 12 years old.

    I get along great with my mom and dad. Things have been better between me and my parents since the divorce. No more tension. My mom and I joke a lot about things, we act more like sisters while I still treat my dad as my dad. He's a bit more serious. I also get along with my brother quite well.

    And my family loves my boyfriend. They treat him like their own. Partly because he lives with me and all.

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  32. My immediate family consists of my parents and my brother who is six years my junior. My brother and I are polar opposites (he's friendly and social, I'm shy and antisocial at times; I'm very responsible and he's very forgetful) but we get along very well. I'm a 2nd generation Fil-Am and my fiance is a 1.5-generation Chinese-American so we're going to have a blended family someday. It'll be fun. I'm hoping our future children will be trilingual (we speak three different languages between us)!

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  33. I'm the second-youngest of 7 children--my parents have both passed on and one of my brothers also. As siblings, we all look alike, even though my brothers are all over 6 feet tall (my younger brother is 6'4"!) and i'm only 5'3". Oops i forgot to say that i have 5 brothers and 1 sister. i have 4 children on my own, 2 and 2, and 3 grandchildren with one more on the way.
    My family is loud (my husband is just the opposite) and loving. thanks for asking us to share this.

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  34. Two of my three sisters wouldn't talk to my wife until after we had dated over 5 years and got married. Then she (my wife) realized she was better off before. LOL!

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  35. My family is quite a bit different from everyone else's', or at least from what I've experienced. I have a brother that is 2 years younger than I am-16-who is currently in Utah for rehabilitation. He took a turn for the worst after our parents passed away at the end of 2009.
    My family wasn't specifically close to each other until my parents passed away, and now they are all significantly closer.
    Friends seem to make up the main part of my "family." Even when my mother was alive I was calling my best friend's mother Mom! Both mothers adopted the other daughter so it seemed like I had two families, and had a "mother" who stepped in when my biological mother passed away from Lung Cancer. I was one of the lucky ones to have a second mother, even if it's not the same. (:

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  36. I'm the oldest of 5. I served a mission in Germany, my sister in Italy, one brother in Paris, the other brother in Poland. Needless to say, we have an extreme fondness for Europe. We were all single until I got married in 2005 then 3 more got married within 18 months of me marrying. It was a crazy time! We're all in AZ or UT except the youngest brother and his wife who are in England while he attends graduate film school.

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  37. My mom and dad met at BYU Hawaii. Had me then moved back to the mainland where I was followed by twin brothers and a sister. Dad passed away from a hereditary disease in 1995. All 3 siblings inherited the disease, but they are tested on regular intervals are totally fine. We now all live in Utah County where we're loud, obnoxious, and crass. Oh, and we think we're the most hilarious people alive. Holidays and family functions are always extravagant and dramatic. My poor husband, didn't really know what he was getting himself into when he married me. But after some conditioning, he can now burp, fart, and pee with the door open just like the rest of us!

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  38. i feel like the black sheep--not because of behavior--but because i'm more appreciative of others' differences.

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  39. the photo is adorable! i think family should be everything!

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  40. I had one sister, 17 months older than me. We were best friends and worst enemies growing up. My mom passed away in a medical mishap when I was 13. My dad remarried a wonderful woman who is the best 2nd chance with a mom ever. I adore her. Then my sister died at 9 months pregnant when I was 20 yrs old and 3 months married. Her infant (who was c-sectioned to try and save) passed away 7 days later.
    I'm closer to my dad and stepmom more than ever. They are my rocks. We have our disagreements and we have different opinions on some things, just like all people do. But with all our tragedys, we've realized that you can't take family for granted. Or anyone you love, for that matter.

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